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CHANGES

Look around you? What do you see? Have you seen your self dress this way maybe a few months ago? Have you seen the new tree that is slowly growing outside your house? Have you seen that new building across the road? What does this tell you? 


Everything changes. Nothing remains the same for too long. We change and so does everything around us. We may feel these changes sometime, and sometimes they happen without us noticing them. As humans we incorporate change on a daily basis. Habits change, behavior changes, clothes, houses, relationships, people, nature, everything changes. Everything around us and inside us tells us that the only thing constant is change.


Then why are we so afraid of it? Why do we get so comfortable with something when we know for sure it changes? Aren't we supposed to get comfortable with change itself? Why do we alter our reality to such an extent that we blind ourselves to the only constant thing - Change? 


Well, I feel we do this so that we can live a life that does not hurt us too much. We place our expectations in the hands of others or things. This is the first mistake we make. All of us want to lead a happy life. Then why do we make our own life so difficult? Confusing? Let me explain with an example.


We fall in love with a wonderful person, a person who is constantly changing and becoming what they want to be. When we are in love, we take a perfect picture of this person, who was perfect at the moment your heart decided to be in love. We then take this picture and hold it as a comparison to all the other moments that come into this relationship. What happens then? The moments that come, may or may not compare to the perfect picture we took at the perfect moment when we fell in love. 


This makes us feel the following moments are somehow very inconsistent. This makes us feel sad, irritable, crestfallen, disappointed, etc. But what if we do not have a perfect picture? That is to say, what if we do not have expectations? Living each moment is easier than living in a world where we are scared of what might happen next. 


Fear is the root cause of making our lives miserable. When we expect certain things to the same always, we conform ourselves to a life long prison of fear, disappointment, sadness, and a whole lot of ugly emotions. This does not let us smile from the heart, does not let us skip on the streets, does not let us notice the immense beauty that is there within us and as well as around us. What use is life, when we cannot see the beauty with which we are created? We need to realize that we are perfect, even though we change a lot. 


These changes are made with the choices we make. If we choose to be happy, no matter what happens in our lives, we will search and find only those moments that make us happy. In short, we can be what we want. We only need to make the right choices to see the right changes that will make our life perfect.


by, Teja Priyadarshini

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